BDSM: The Truth v.s. Fiction, or does it even matter?

Catchy enough title, eh?

So, here’s the thing; I’m an erotic romance and erotica fan. As an avid reader, I look for plots that aren’t stale, covers that make me gawk, and over course hero’s that totally rock my world. But often I’m reminded of how fake some of these fictional situations are. Or, are they really fake? How does one really know.

Personally, I don’t give a rats @ss whether the situations are real or not. If it’s hot, and the reader is left wet, frustrated, and ready to go, why should it matter.

I have friends in the lifestyle, and as it stands what goes in one club, might be a faux pas in another. While there’s similar ground to all, I think it’s a matter of finding what works for you.

I try not to over analyze the reality of a book. I happen to think that sometimes authors/publishers stress too much on “It isn’t real?”, “Don’t expect your book to sell like FSoG”, or “The scenarios are unrealistic!”.  Porn is fake, and guess what, it still sells, and at a ridiculous rate.

Before I go, I recently received a reviewers copy for author Ann Mayburn’s Ivan’s Captive Submissive. If you’re looking for a new BDSM novel to read, you’ll need to add this book to your list when it releases in November. Check out my review here: http://wp.me/p3ncbN-5Q, and if you subscribe to Hawt Reads & Dirty Talks blog, you’ll be in the loop of more recommended reads

Do you think about these things? Or, do you completely leave it to your imagination.

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4 thoughts on “BDSM: The Truth v.s. Fiction, or does it even matter?

  1. I love love love love this post.

    It makes me crazy when people say that BDSM is this or that. Really, it’s whatever the participants want it to be. Just like you said, finding what works for you and what’s okay for one space, may not be okay somewhere else.

    “How does one really know?” They don’t. Even if they live the lifestyle, they don’t know what other people are going to choose to do on a daily basis.

    I can’t wait to read Ann’s book.

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  2. Saranna is right. Most reviewers, don’t know that BDSM scenes are negotiated with each person involved relating limitations, some of which may be pushed, as well as hard limits (not to be pushed.) I believe that if it’s listed as fiction, it should be enjoyed as fiction, whether it’s realistic is not entirely of consequence in some cases. Excellent article.

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  3. For my part, I love reading and writing in the land of fantasy… that what does it for me. However, I still need it to have an ounce of realism in there. Zombies and aliens just aren’t my thing.

    It changes for every reader, but I don’t think most readers know half of what goes on behind the scenes. No matter if you’ve seen it all and done it all – there are plenty more corners of the world that are just waiting to be explored. Great post 😉

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  4. Interesting article. As a BDSM erotica writer and BDSM aficionado, I don’t care if it’s realistic, but I do care if it perpetuates stereotypes about practitioners. There are enough people who think BDSM = abuse that it raises my hackles when authors write abuse and try to shove it under the BDSM umbrella. Consent is consent is consent, and that should go for all kinds of sex play.

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